It wasn’t supposed to be this way.
There were to be vows, and cake, and music. But mostly, joy. And love.
And instead, there’s been fear and uncertainty.
When you originally set your wedding date, there were likely many factors that went into that decision. Vendor availability, season, sentimental dates…but it never occured to you that the term “global pandemic” would need to be on your radar.
It wasn’t supposed to be this way. And before anything else, it’s okay to let yourself grieve what was supposed to be.
When you’re ready, take a deep breath and lean into your partner (because ultimately this whole thing was just about the two of you!). It may look differently than you envisioned, but at the end of it all, you get to marry your “person.” There is joy on the horizon for you…joy that will be worth this extra waiting!
In the interim, here are some ways to make the most of this time of postponement.
Now might be a great time to begin working on those. On a sunny day, grab your partner and your favorite beverage and head outside to your yard or front porch. Sit at opposite sides of the space and spend some time reflecting on how far you’ve come, and what you dream for your future together. This intentional time will give you something to hope for, and hope is something we all should lean into right now.
Have you decided on which song you’ll use for your First Dance? While formal classes aren’t currently an option, there are a plethora of resources available on Youtube for help choreographing your first dance (check out the Wedding Dance Choreography Channel by Duet Dance Studio). Now might be an excellent time to begin planning those steps and practicing together!
Many stationary artists and calligraphers are offering services for brides impacted by postponements due to COVID-19, including creating beautiful custom Save-The New Date cards. Some of these creatives include Julie Ha and Ciarra Claire.
Printing your photos tends to be a romanticized idea that’s often placed on the back-burner due to busyness. With the slower pace of current life, now is an excellent time to create a tangible heirloom from your engagement session images. This can also double as a guest book at the wedding, so it’s an amazing opportunity to check something else off of the planning task list!
(Feeling overwhelmed at the thought of choosing and sorting images? For a limited time, I’m offering design services for these albums! Email me at nikki@nikkisanterre.com to begin the process!)
This season has been unprecedented and stressful. Turn off the news, place your phones in a drawer, and create a “Date Night” atmosphere at home. Have a cooking contest creating unique menu items only from things in your pantry. Create a “fort” in your living room using linens and pillows and rent a movie (there are many options being streamed that were meant to be in theaters now!). Grab a few bottles of wine, put together a charcuterie board, and have a tasting in your backyard. Allow the simple joy of being together wash over you and be a welcomed distraction from the things that are happening. Remember, you are so worthy of the joy that should be a part of the days leading up to the beginning of your marriage. If the two of you can get through this, you can weather any storm.
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